“Being too much of one and not another is what makes each of us unique to how the Lord has made us.”
Ever felt like you were too much of something others didn’t want? Too little of something they thought you clearly ought to be? I get it. I’ve been accused of both being too unassertive to lead and too sure of myself to be followed. Go figure. (And never, ever have I been accused of being a Proverbs 31 woman.) In the end, my guest blogger today has an awesome point–while we definitely want to work on the things we truly lack, sometimes, too much or too little is just the way God wants us.
Read on for My guest Brianna’s take on a lie we tell our girls.
I’ve never been the meek, mild, and quiet woman who keeps all her opinions to herself. I’ve never been the one who shrinks back from hard conversations or difficult situations. Sometimes this has not allowed others to accept me very easily. The reality of being a strong woman in a man’s world is acceptance is not always readily to be had, but it should never deter you from continuing to be who God made you to be.
Being a strong woman intimidates some men but also tends to make female friendships more complicated.
The reality of being a strong woman in a man’s world is it weeds out the truly strong women from those who are jealous of her authenticity.
Strong women can more easily learn the ability to be both strong and soft. To compete yet surrender. To rebuke yet still give grace. To both give and receive criticism without it destroying their identity. These are authentic traits that strong women have that are sometimes both taken for granted and discounted by men, yet envied by other women.
The reality of being a strong woman in a man’s world is that often you are labeled as being “too much” of one thing and “not enough” of another.
Too strong. Too Loud. Too passionate. Too smart. Too intimidating. Too much woman for men to think pretty or feminine enough — never obedient enough to be properly labeled a “Proverbs 31 Woman” by both women and men.
Being too much of one and not another is what makes each of us unique to how the Lord has made us. Often what we think is “too much” is exactly what attracts us to our calling in the world and guides us to the path the Lord has for us. Not being enough of another trait is often the weakness that allows the Lord to work in our lives for his glory and purpose.
It’s no secret that loving a strong woman is not always easy. We’re feisty. We have opinions we aren’t afraid to share. We tend not to be bashful about whom or what we like. We brim with confidence, and this can be intimidating.
The reality of being a strong woman in a man’s world is acceptance is not always readily to be had, but it should never deter you from continuing to be who God made you to be.
The reality of being a strong woman in a man’s world is that there is more likelihood to be genuinely loved by a real man rather than a man who feels the need to dominate over women.
Real men realize that strong women are vital to the world, the Church, and often their own walk with Christ. They appreciate and are attracted to the strength and dignity strong women possess. They do not discount it, discourage it, or become intimidated by it.
Being a woman who is secure in her faith, capable of her work, firm in her beliefs, and tenacious toward her dreams makes her limitless in her potential for success. She is one who remains steady and focused on her calling and purpose both in business and ministry.
The reality of being a strong woman in a man’s world is ministry is a place where strong women are often rebuked or ignored.
I say to these women — minister anyway. Love anyway. Teach anyway. Serve anyway. Give anyway. Lead anyway. Write sermons anyway. Speak about Jesus anyway. Preach the Gospel anyway. Follow your calling as God leads you anyway.
God has given you the qualifications to be who you are and do his leading. You are a woman for a reason — he did not need you to be a man to do what he has called you to do. You are strong for a purpose. Flex those unyielding convictions and lean into the purpose he has given you.
Yes, the reality is it’s a man’s world, but it’s God’s universe — live as he created you to be. You have a tribe of strong women behind you cheering you on — you are the Proverbs 31 Woman.
Brianna George is a Speaker, Teacher, and Missionary— as well as a part-time Writer and full-time Encourager. She currently lives in Middle Tennessee with her husband of 12 years, Jason, busy being Mom to two spicy little boys and Bosa the Boxer. You can read more of her writing at www.unveiledandrevealed.com, as well as on collaborative media outlets such as The Glorious Table, The Huffington Post, and The Mighty.